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on a mission to encourage others not to give up.Through times of extreme testing,Kelly’s discovered peace-bringing wisdom, truth, and techniques
that help women live full-hearted, even when life feels downright empty.
Kelly believes there is hope for every woman, every battle and in every circumstance.
She shares this hope on her blog, http://purposefulfaith.com/,
and on many writing publications such as Relevant, Crosswalk,
and Today’s Christian Woman.
Kelly’s work has been featured on The Today Show, 700 Club Interactive,
Moody Radio and other television and radio broadcasts.
Learn more about Kelly at www.iambattleready.com .
The Cafe congratulates Kelly on the recent release of her newest book titled
Battle Ready: Train your Mind to Conquer Challenges, Defeat Doubt and Live Victoriously .
Here is a brief overview in her own words,
So when challenges, troubles, or opportunities arise, we rapidly become burdened
with limiting thoughts of self-doubt, fear, impossibility, and lack.
But it doesn’t have to be this way.
We can train our minds to conquer uncertainty, beat insecurity,
and step past the tragedies of yesterday.Battle Ready is a hands-on scriptural plan that teaches you twelve easy-to-implement,
confidence-building mind-sets designed to transform your thoughts
and, therefore, your life.
So LifeLetter Cafe is excited to share this recent interview with Kelly Balarie
to dive deeper into the story behind
Battle Ready: Train your Mind to Conquer Challenges, Defeat Doubt and Live Victoriously.
Enjoy her answers below in the latest 7 Questions Sunday!
Today’s 7 Questions
LifeLetter Cafe: What were the driving factors that led you to write Battle Ready: Train your Mind to Conquer Challenges, Defeat Doubt and Live Victoriously?
Kelly Balarie: Ever felt like once you just made it out of your problem, then, life would be okay? This is how I felt. I’d be happy once… I’d be joyful when… I’d feel good about myself if… I’d be better when those people…
Conditional living is conditional on us, our circumstances and problems. Unconditional love breaks conditions. I wrote the book, Battle Ready: Train your Mind to Conquer Challenges, Defeat Doubt and Live Victoriously because I wanted to allow God’s unconditional love change all the conditions around me.
I wanted to learn how to get God’s word into my heart, so it could change my thoughts and then my life. I was tired of living doubtful, defeated and demoralized. Jesus didn’t die for me to waste my life away as I waited for a perfect day, He died to make me perfectly righteous in his sight. I have all the joy, peace and purpose I need – in the here and now. I decided it was time I learn to embrace it.
I wanted to seize the mind of Christ so that His mind could change my outlooks, thoughts, and world.
LifeLetter Cafe: You talk about times of very personal battle and struggle – even depression – what was one of your darkest moments and what helped you get back on your feet in Christ?
Kelly Balarie: When my legs started going numb and my eyes started getting fuzzy, my family clearly instructed me that I’d need to set up long-term care for myself. They knew, before long, the Multiple Sclerosis would hinder me from walking. I was unsure of what my world would look like; I was devastated. Not only this, my infant son, wasn’t sleeping at all. I spent nearly every night pacing the hallway with a screaming baby. It was terrible. I was sleepless too.
Practically out of my mind, because I couldn’t think straight, I went to appointment after appointment. In one of the waiting rooms, I finally took my eyes off of – my problems, my world, my body – and something magnificent happened. I realized God had more for me than the struggle I was in. I ended up ministering to a Jewish woman who had bone cancer. She lived in horrible agony every day. I prayed for her. In Jesus’ name. It meant something to her.
Beyond this, those colicky baby nights were a blessing. They gave my husband and I a chance to really pray. The doctors could not confirm M.S. after multiple MRI’s and tests.
God truly does answer when we call. It may not always be according to our timing, but it is always according to His very good will.
LifeLetter Cafe: As I offer this interview Kelly, I am mindful of God’s faithfulness in past trials but I am also very much tethered in the present to hope-crushing circumstances and I am not alone – for those like myself, where do we start and how do we step into “walking boldy in the love of Christ”?
Kelly Balarie: In the book, Battle Ready, you’ll come to know, not just recite, “I can do all things through Christ…” (Phil. 4:13) I think after we pray so much and see no answers, we get jaded. Yet, just because we’re jaded, doesn’t mean that God isn’t faithful. On the contrary, He can and will do exceedingly abundantly more than we can ask or imagine. We just line up with His unfailing love, abide in it, return to it, cling to it, and let Him do His best work. His love is not conditional on our work.
LifeLetter Cafe: What are your primary goals for Battle Ready? What should readers expect?
Kelly Balarie: I love what readers are telling me. So many people are saying this book is a manual for the mind, one that they will return to over and over again. Many are keeping it on their nightstand next to the bible as a go-to resource. This message meets people where they are in their life, yet it is also has ongoing, return-to-again value in future seasons. People have called it “game-changing,” “life-changing”. Many people are thinking and acting differently as a result.
Jesus didn’t speak like I speak to myself.
He always lifted up the sinners so they could walk again.
He left us with grace.
– Kelly Balarie
LifeLetter Cafe: What is your message to those who feel as though they have tried to regain control of their thought-life and destructive habits far too many times and desperately need a word of encouragement today?
Kelly Balarie: I really need to… I should… I have to… I’ve gotta… I always mess up… I can’t ever… I will never…
I’ve had all these thoughts at different times. I can be really hard and mean to myself. Jesus didn’t speak like I speak to myself. He always lifted up the sinners so they could walk again. He left us with grace. He calls us into the arms of love, like a prodigal father waiting for his off-the-path daughter. We can make a grand return to His love without all the extra self-condemnation and feelings of demoralization.
“Do not be afraid or discouraged because of this vast army. For the battle is not yours, but God’s.” (2 Chron.20:15)
God owns our mind transformation. We just submit to Him and let Him do His mind renewal work. The tips, insights and scriptural truths in the book Battle Ready will help you with this process.
LifeLetter Cafe: Talk about how about some of the emotional and spiritual “boundaries” you have put in place in your own walk in Christ so that you can stay in peace and be a life-giver to others?
Kelly Balarie: One of the 12-Battle Ready “ity” mindsets in the book is the word, “simplicity”. I have learned I don’t need to have everything, do everything and be everything to everyone. Why? Because that does not lead to joy. It is not “doing” and “being” everything which brings me joy; it is Jesus. If I am not making room for Him, I am just cluttering a whole lot of stuff into my life that isn’t adding value. It’s hoarding. It’s clutter. It’s a waste. And, it takes my time. I then have to manage it all.
Simplicity keeps things easy. It makes room for God.
LifeLetter Cafe: OK – please share a favorite “moment” or chapter from your book . . and tell us what comes next for you as a writer?
Kelly Balarie: I love the dedication of the book. My heart is to not only help those facing external battles such as finances, cancer, wayward children or sudden accidents, but also those struggling with doubt, despair or the depths of uncertainty.
This book is a helping hand. It is a training ground for your mind. It is an uplifting bootcamp for sad emotions. It is a friend in time of need. And it is a biblical guide to get you through whatever you face.
Battle Ready helps us proactively fight so that we don’t reactively fall down emotionally. The truth really can and will set us free.
What comes next for me? What comes next is – whatever God wants me to write. I haven’t figured that out yet. So, until then, I’ll rest and trust Him to direct my next steps.
Cafe readers, looking for more resources to face your personal battles?
You can go to http://www.iambattleready.com and download the “What’s my Battle Ready Style” Quiz. Here they can find out their best battle-style to stay connected to God. Even more, you can customize your own Battle Ready plan. There are a whole bunch of free resources on this page.
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