Someone to Share My Burdens

Having at least one person in my life to be able to share my deepest darkest secrets to is an invaluable thing.

She doesn’t judge me for my past mistakes. She loves me despite my occasional moodiness. She listens to me even if she is tired or busy or had a bad day herself. She is my mentor, but beyond that, she has become my friend. She is someone who prays for me and sends me a text to tell me so. She is someone I can text anytime and I know she will respond with love.

This is exactly what Paul is speaking to the churches of Galatia when he wrote the Epistle to them.

“Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ.”

Galatians 6:2 

In his Epistle, Paul is outlining the Jewish law and how it applies to the new Christians. The churches of Galatia were founded by Paul and are formed primarily of converts from the Jewish faith and heathens. The Galatians were under the heavy Judean influence and Paul writes his letter to them to reinforce the importance of holding steadfast to their Christian beliefs.

This sort of reminds me of how I felt before recovery. I, too, was under the heavy influence, but it was from the world, not the Bible.

The world wants us to believe we can do things alone without any help.

The world tells us we need to consume more and more in order to live a happy life. The world says “look at her and how beautiful her life looks on {insert any social media channel you want here}. The idea of the world is for us to:

  • Be self-sufficient
  • Buy as much as possible to fill our empty spaces
  • Compare ourselves to others

This is the opposite of what Paul tells the Galatians—and us. Instead, the Bible tells us these truths:

  • Rely on others (Galatians 6:2)
  • Store up treasures in heaven (Matthew 6:19-20)
  • Don’t conform to the world (Romans 12:2)

Knowing these truths, I am glad I have a mentor to share the rest of my recovery journey with. God wants us to be a part of a community. His desire is for us to seek wise counsel and spend time with others who can share the burdens of this world. My mentor does that for me and in turn, I do the same for her.

If you haven’t found a mentor yet and you are not quite sure where to start, you can visit the Why Recovery page to find out more.

Think About It:

  • Do you have someone of the same sex in mind who would be a good mentor? If so, reach out to him or her and ask.
  • If you have a mentor already, have you confessed your personal inventory from Step Four to him or her? There is no time like the present.
  • Do you find yourself living in the “world” instead of living with Jesus in mind? List some things in your life right now that could use change to turn your mind toward treasures in heaven.
  • Read Galatians 6:2, Proverbs 15:22, Matthew 6:19-20, and Romans 12:2.

Journal About it:

Write about how the questions and scriptures today resonated with you. As you write, thank Him for showing you the way in your journey.

Pray About it:

As you think and write, say this prayer with me.

Heavenly Father,

Thank you for providing me with the truth of Your Word. Thank you for giving me the gift of community. I ask you to provide me with a mentor that is the right person, chosen by You to walk with me along my recovery journey.

In Jesus’ name,

Amen.

Talk About it:

I would love to hear from you! I enjoy connecting and keeping in touch. Do you feel as though you don’t have anyone you can share with confidentially? Your anonymity is protected. Do you feel you are the only one struggling with the aftereffects of growing up with an alcoholic parent? YOU are not alone! It’s time to break free from the shackles of your controlling habits, trust issues, co-dependency, guilt, self-blame, hurts, regrets, and heartaches! Your NEW Normal starts NOW!

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About the author : Kimberly Dewberry

Kimberly Dewberry

Kimberly Dewberry struggled for 25 years to cope with an addicted parent. She knows first-hand how the serenity and peace of God’s redemption are keys to personal wholeness. Kimberly offers solid biblical truths to help transform women in the grace of a loving Heavenly Father. In her weekly devotions, Kimberly shares her story and provides valuable biblical principles for overcoming the effects of growing up with an addicted parent.

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