I’d venture to say that Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages, is familiar to most of you. If it isn’t and you want to understand your relationships better? READ IT!
As most of you know I’ve been spending a lot of time in the red words of the Bible! The Gospels! The red words are the ones Jesus spoke and are instrumental in our learning how to walk out this thing we call life. Back in October I wrote 31 days from the Gospel of John and this past January I wrote the 40 days of Lent. Both projects took me to Mary and Martha. Most of us relate to one or the other and we are told that Mary “chose the best part.” And, of course hanging out with Jesus would always be the best choice. Amen? But, these ladies, y’all…I just had to understand them better and thus began my meditating and pondering.
I’ve been told I think too much!
Can we talk?
I am, without a speck of doubt, an acts of service kind of gal. No need to tell me you love me, just change the oil and mow the grass. Your acts of service shout, “I LOVE YOU!” And, over the years my secondary language has changed to … drum roll … I cannot even believe I admit this … I wonder if you (who have known me longest) will believe me … but, it’s true: QUALITY TIME!
So, did Biblical women (and men) have a love language? Of course! I offer the following:
Martha’s was acts of service. Mary’s? Quality time. Jesus’ love language incorporates all five, because He is sheer perfection. We have to discern for ourselves and the people we are with, what language we are going to speak to them in because we want to speak in the same language as our’s; however, in successful relationships we must learn to speak in the other’s language to assure a well-balanced relationship. Mary chose well. Martha was “much ado about nothing!” Remember Holy Spirit hadn’t come yet to impart such discerning spirits. I bet Martha was a servant to reckon with after the day of Pentecost. Yes?
Thanks for hearing me out on this. What are your thoughts?