The Language of LOVE

I’d venture to say that Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages, is familiar to most of you. If it isn’t and you want to understand your relationships better? READ IT!

As most of you know I’ve been spending a lot of time in the red words of the Bible! The Gospels! The red words are the ones Jesus spoke and are instrumental in our learning how to walk out this thing we call life. Back in October I wrote 31 days from the Gospel of John and this past January I wrote the 40 days of Lent. Both projects took me to Mary and Martha. Most of us relate to one or the other and we are told that Mary “chose the best part.” And, of course hanging out with Jesus would always be the best choice. Amen? But, these ladies, y’all…I just had to understand them better and thus began my meditating and pondering.

I’ve been told I think too much!

Can we talk?

I am, without a speck of doubt, an acts of service kind of gal. No need to tell me you love me, just change the oil and mow the grass. Your acts of service shout, “I LOVE YOU!” And, over the years my secondary language has changed to … drum roll … I cannot even believe I admit this … I wonder if you (who have known me longest) will believe me … but, it’s true: QUALITY TIME!


So, did Biblical women (and men) have a love language? Of course! I offer the following:

Martha’s was acts of service. Mary’s? Quality time. Jesus’ love language incorporates all five, because He is sheer perfection. We have to discern for ourselves and the people we are with, what language we are going to speak to them in because we want to speak in the same language as our’s; however, in successful relationships we must learn to speak in the other’s language to assure a well-balanced relationship. Mary chose well. Martha was “much ado about nothing!” Remember Holy Spirit hadn’t come yet to impart such discerning spirits. I bet Martha was a servant to reckon with after the day of Pentecost. Yes?

Thanks for hearing me out on this. What are your thoughts?

About the author : Susan Shipe

Susan Shipe

I am an encourager with a heart for women. The Lord delivered a message of hope deep within my soul in 2002. Jesus, the Hope-giver met me in my hour of need and my heart overflowed with hope – the theme of my life since that time has been HOPE! I began blogging in 2008 and became serious in the fall of 2010 when I hired a site designer! Hope|Heart|Home are my three passions and one can find food for the soul, and the body, along with a lot of musing over at I am the mother of three adult children, grandmother (a/k/a Mimzy) to 20-year old Hannah and 14-year old Simon, and I am the wife of one man and together we love on our beloved dog, Sam! My husband, Lowell, and I attend Community Church in Mountain City, Tennessee. I enjoy writing, reading, organic gardening, traveling, and spending time with our family.

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