I recently shared
an older post of mine –
one I wrote shortly after I got married …
This statement, though well-intentioned, reveals the problem we face in the church today. Today’s Christian culture treats virginity as equal to purity, when they are not the same thing at all.
VIRGINITY IS PHYSICAL; PURITY IS SPIRITUAL
That’s why it’s possible to be a virgin and live an impure life. Purity is not determined by whether or not a woman’s hymen is intact, but by whether or not her heart is transformed by Christ. When we focus on virginity as the only manifestation of purity, we also negate the value of Christ’s redemption. Because just as it is possible to be a virgin and be spiritually impure, it is also possible to have lost virginity and yet be renewed by the blood of Christ.
Purity can manifest itself physically in the lives of those who never engage in sexual sin prior to marriage, and also in the lives of those redeemed by grace. Virginity is not the measure – the blood of Jesus is.
VIRGINITY CAN BE LOST; PURITY CAN BE RENEWED
Since virginity is a physical status, it can indeed be “lost” – even by getting married. Once you have sex, your virginity is gone. Purity, however, is eternal. As long as we’re in Christ, our purity should grow progressively brighter. Sanctification is a life-long process.
Purity isn’t all about sex, either. Sexual purity is only a fraction of what it means to be an image-bearer of Christ. We are called to “be holy as He is holy” in every area of life – mentally, emotionally, physically, AND sexually. Since purity isn’t about sex, it can’t be “lost” like virginity. Christ Himself is our purity. In Him, we stand redeemed, renewed, and ready to proclaim His authority through our lives – and even through our sexuality.
Though purity can’t be lost, it can be transgressed against. When we sin, we’re failing to live up to the pure identity Christ bought for us. Repentance and reconciliation offer us hope for those moments, and victory where we may have never known it before.
WHERE VIRGINITY FAILS, PURITY FULFILLS
Ultimately, virginity will fail us. It is no savior. Trusting in virginity – as a parent or as an individual – says nothing for the heart of the person involved. We don’t need to chase virginity. We should pursue purity, from which the decision to save sex for marriage will automatically flow.
And for those who have “lost” their virginity, there is always hope.
To take pride in virginity is a sign that a church, family, or individual has missed the point. The point is purity: a status that we can never earn on our own power. Our purity is completely dependent on the influence of Christ and our love for Him. Any other motive will result in either legalism or rebellion – or both. Where virginity fails, purity fulfills, because Christ is always enough.
How is God encouraging you today?