They Kicked Her Out

“When her parents
discovered she was pregnant,
they kicked her out.” 

This single mom has defied the odds. She is raising her child, going to college, and working to support the two of them.

Not easy.

I don’t know the details of this woman’s story. I have no clue as to the relationship she had or has with her parents. I don’t know all the times of trouble that led up to this separation.

But…

I do know a number of families in a similar situation who chose to do life differently. They chose to support their unwed pregnant daughter and help her in her time of need. Three of the girls kept their babies. All three are now married (not to the baby daddy), another girl miscarried (now married with kids), and a fifth made an open adoption plan.

During the most difficult time in their life, each young mom knew her parents were there for her. Each woman knew she could count on her parents to help stabilize the shaky ground. All girls are now thriving.

 

As daughter’s of Eve and sons of Adam …

we make decisions that are not in our  best interest, ones that are not God’s best for us.

Humans have  a wandering propensity.

Some young people stray due to an unwed pregnancy, sexual sin, porn, substance abuse, or a rejection of faith. When we have a prodigal, sometimes we are to let ’em go (see Luke 15) and other times we are to chase after our lost sheep (see Luke 15).

Either way, we need to keep the bridge built so our prodigal is able to return.

 

I have a child who, for a season,
stepped away from the family …

It was the most painful thing I have ever endured. There were times I chased her down like the shepherd and other times I waited like the dad.

I cried. I prayed.

I was a mess. I was weak.

God was strong.

Praise God, He brought her back to us.

I am thankful I kept the drawbridge down so she could cross it.

If your young person has taken a detour from the way in which he should go, keep the bridge open. Don’t destroy it, build it. Construct it with grace, humility, mercy, forgiveness, honesty, and truth. All qualities of unconditional love.

Build it and yes…they will come.

Back.

 

“Rejoice with me; I have found my lost sheep.”
Luke 15:6b (NIV) 

 

 

 

 

How is God encouraging you today?

 

About the author : Lori Wildenberg

Lori Wildenberg is a mom of four and wife for thirty-one years. She is the co-founder of Corinthians 13 Parenting, author, national speaker, a licensed Parent and Family Educator, and co-columnist for Parenting Prose found in MARRIAGE Magazine. She weaves warmth, transparency, and gentle humor into her realistic approach to raising kids today. The Wildenbergs (and their labradoodle) live in the foothills of the Rocky Mountains.

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