Why God Crushed My Dream

Do you have a dream, something you want to happen?

If it doesn’t happen, you feel a twinge of pain and frustration because you want this dream to happen?

I know how you feel.

I had a dream, and it didn’t happen. It hurts and I get frustrated.

Satan likes to remind me about how God didn’t come through for me. It’s a daily battle of darts flying into my Why God Crushed My Dream. We have dreams we want fulfilled, but what if God doesn't make our dreams happen. Will we surrender to God's Will and await His plans for us?thoughts, which then alerts me about what I am missing.

 God knows how I feel. He cares for me, but His answer was no.

I don’t know why?

I’m wondering if I knew why, it would make any difference?

I can be childish, and throw a tantrum even though I hear the reasoning.

We all have dreams and aches that we feel in our hearts.

It’s hard to accept when the answer is no, isn’t it? Don’t we feel like we know better than God?

I want to trust God’s plans and His will for me, but my dream not happening causes me pain. Many times, I try and barter with God. If I’m faithful, you should do it for me. I deserve it, I serve you through XYZ.

God isn’t a puppet at my will-call, He’s a Purpose-Driver with a plan.

Here’s the thing, am I depending selfishly on what I think will fulfill me, or am I basking in the over covering sufficiency of my Savior?


Following Jesus requires that we:

  • Sacrifice our dreams for God’s plans
  • Give God complete devotion
  • Willingly submit to His plans


Did the disciples deal with the same feelings we do about our dreams? Did Jesus have to remind them of the wishes and desires they wanted, but might not happen?

Mark 8:34 (NLT) Then, calling the crowd to join his disciples, he said, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must give up your own way, take up your cross, and follow me.


 Take Up Our Cross

According to NIV Quest Bible, “Jesus used this powerful image to illustrate the price of being his disciple. Jesus laid down his life voluntarily, and he asks us to do the same—to commit our lives wholeheartedly to him, accepting any hardship this choice may bring.”

The saying goes “we can give without loving, but you can’t love without giving.

Could this apply to me about how I treat God also?

My love for God requires that I sacrifice some of my deepest desires. This is hard to do daily, which is why I need to return to the foot of the cross often.

God doesn’t fulfill my wants, He fulfills my needs.


I need to remind myself of the love God gave for me on the cross. Therefore, I take up my own cross, and surrender those desires and dreams to Him.

Can we make a commitment to God? 

Are we able to sacrifice what we hold near and dear? Can we let our palms remain open?

It’s important to realize, God knows what I need. I might think I know what will ultimately make me happy and content, but I’m not seeing my future, nor the plans God has for me.

Surrendering this dream is hard, and I tend to let it bother me every day.

5 Tips for Accepting God’s Will over my dream:

1. Approach God daily, and leave my will at His feet.

2. Remember that God is working out the best for me.

3. God sees the whole picture, not the individual pieces I see

4. God has great things planned for me here and wondrous things in Heaven

5. Have an intentional, grateful heart for the blessings I have been given


Mark 10:28 (NLT) Then Peter began to speak up. “We’ve given up everything to follow you,” he said.

Isn’t it interesting that the passage directly above is linked to this:

2 Corinthians 4:17 (NLT) For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever!

God never said this Christian walk would be easy. In fact, Jesus said it will be hard, marred with trials and afflictions.  

Though we painfully give up our heart’s desires, God promises us a glory that outweighs what we gave up in obedience to His will. This glory will last forever!

Can you accept the trade of a dream of not coming true to an ever-lasting gift in Heaven?

I’m going to be more intentional about daily surrendering my desires, and looking expectantly to my Heavenly reward.

About the author : Julie Loos

Julie Loos

Julie Loos is wife, mother, and writer who writes about trusting God when life is hard. She likes to write about her messes at www.unmaskingthemess.com. Julie can be found chauffeuring her kids to their activities with an iced tea in her hand, or collecting more chickens at her hobby farm in the hills of Wisconsin.

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