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Every pastor faces it …
Most hate it. You can’t avoid it. People will leave your church. When that happens, what should we do? In this post I suggest a few tips on how to respond when it occurs.
In my over 23 years as a senior pastor (and a another 12 as an associate), for various reasons I’ve probably seen hundreds of people come and go at the churches where I served.
In one year over 100 people left the church I planted after I gave my infamous “Willow Creek” talk. I had just attended one of Willow’s early conferences and within two weeks I delivered a message about all the changes we planned to make. It didn’t work. In my immaturity I had failed to wisely manage change.
Except for some blessed subtractions (tho
Here’s how I’ve tried to process
my painful emotions when people leave …
- I don’t disparage them to others after they leave.
- I reach out to those who had significant roles in the church. Often I will meet with them.
- I NEVER burn bridges. I wish them well and pray for them in person if possible.
- I don’t try to hide their leaving from other leaders, and neither do I broadcast it.
- When possible, I’ve used informal exit interviews to discover why leavers left and if there’s anything we can learn.
- When I see them again, I reach out and show genuine interest in how they’re doing.
- I don’t let myself become bitter. God has graciously given me short memories about hurtful church experiences. It’s all His grace.
- I remind myself that Jesus also dealt with those who left Him. From this time many of his disciples turned back and no longer followed him. (John 6.66)
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