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Here’s a really practical thing …
we can start doing today to become peacemakers: It’s called active listening.
So when someone else starts talking, put down the phone, shut off the TV or mute it, and listen with your whole face. And here is the key. Every now and then repeat a little something back to the person.
Other than that. just let them speak. Enter receive mode. If there is something you want to say, hold it back. Don’t interrupt. Even if the person is going on about stuff you already know. Even if it’s not true. Even if you already know how it’s going to turn out, let the person speak, because being heard and being understood is a huge human need.
People will more readily go along …
with decisions so long as they know they have been heard and considered. So often conflicts are not about disagreement, but lack of empathy. People feel overlooked, unimportant.
Active listening says you are heard, I understand and you are important to me. Seek to understand, then to be understood.
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this:
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”
– James 1:19 –
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