Who are you?
If someone asked me this I would respond, “I am a child of God, I am the mother to my four sons, I have been a wife for 21 years, I am a daughter in-law and daughter, I am a friend to many.”
One of these roles has made me who I am more than any. I was the daughter who was emotionally and physically hurt by my parents. I am the woman who hid a secret for many years, who avoided and denied that anything was wrong. I was feeling alone and afraid to tell until one day when I heard God say, “FORGIVE.” It seemed unfair and I didn’t understand how or why I would forgive the two people who caused me so much pain.
It was unexpected and I felt alone. I was in the middle of raising four sons, being a wife, a daughter in-law and friend. My life was full of love and suddenly there was an emptiness; a hole where love should’ve been.
As I struggled with the command that I had been given, I learned that forgiving someone doesn’t excuse what they did, but it allows you to move past the hurt. I knew I needed to move past my pain as it was weighing me down. So as I began the process of forgiving, I leaned on my roles to help and found love in the middle of it all.
God’s word helped me understand my questions. I found love from my sons. My husband was supportive and comforting. I received understanding from my in-laws. My friends were all around, offering compassion.
As I was in this difficult season, I found love that filled my emptiness and allowed me to move on and grow. God helped me to forgive just in time because as I was in the middle of forgiveness, my father died. And as I was dealing with my emotions and memories from the past, I found a new kind of love for my mother. I was given the gift of God’s grace (Ephesians 2:8) and now I am extending it to her and loving her in the middle of being a child of God, mother to four sons, a very lucky wife, daughter in law, and friend to many.
All these roles and titles make us feel loved and allow us to show our love for others. We have the opportunity to show that God’s grace for us is something that we cherish and want to share. I hope that next time you find yourself in the middle of a difficult time, you can reflect on my story. Pray for help and lean on the others who make you who you are to help you love through it …as you are in the middle of it!