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It is incredibly hard to grasp that we are only weeks away from the end of the 2014/2015 school year…and high school graduation.
For Lisa and I, this year has significant meaning as it is a year of “lasts” for us. Having triplets means that every stage of life happens virtually at the same time. The kids were all born on the same day…learned to ride bikes on the same day (a day I planned when Lisa was out of town)…went to kindergarten the same day…got their driver’s license on the same day (which increased my insurance on the same day) and will all graduate from high school the same day (June 12, 2015).
So this year has been chalked full of “lasts” including:
- Last year of secondary education
- Last Christmas/Easter as high school students
- Last spring break as high school students
- Last year before college
- Last year for the Prom
There are so many others I could list, but you get my point. We do not have the benefit of gradually stepping into each phase of our children’s lives. Many of our friends have kids in 2, 3 or more stages of life and are able to navigate these stages one child at a time with some frame of reference with the later kids.
I have been so busy developing Cool Solutions Group, both our consulting and eSPACE software, that much of these “lasts” have not impacted me. It has been business as usual. Not so for Lisa. She lives this every day as she does life up close and personal with our kids almost around the clock, especially when I travel. I started to see the impact of the pending life changes on Lisa over the last several weeks as both she and the kids are getting more “sentimental” with each other and with me. I have watched this…but was still a little oblivious…until this week.
Earlier this week the flood gates opened. It hit me out of the blue. I am not sure what the trigger was, but…WOW. Those of you who know me well, are aware that I am driven and do not generally show my emotions (except those of impatience…you know what I mean), but you also know I have a soft spot. But tears?!?! This one took me off guard…and opened my eyes to what is coming down the road in addressing the “lasts.”
But it also have an an equally compelling opposite effect…it made me ponder what I would call our “Firsts.” Here are a few of those:
- First time in 19 years Lisa and will have our home primarily to the 2 of us and our 2 dogs (BTW…we had 2 dogs for the 12 years prior to kids, so this feel natural)
- First time we have college students…all 3 have been accepted to Appalachian State
- First time Lisa will be able to travel with me
- First time over the past 3 years that both Lisa and I can park our cars in the garage
- First time we may consider season tickets for a college football season
- Etc, etc, etc.
2015 is/will be a momentous year for the Cool family. There is going to be significant change…but it is good change. The Lord has blessed us with an incredibly close family, so there is not this desperation on any ones part to see the separation happen…but we also know it is time. The kids are ready…they will be 19 in a few months. Lisa and I are ready to have some new firsts…even though I am clearly not ready for the change emotionally, it is time.
Congrats Scotti, Lee and Jennings for being accepted to college. We are so proud of you and love you so much.
OK…here we go!