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As we approach the end of another year, many of us will take time to reflect on the past year as well as plan for the new. I love taking the time between Christmas and New Years to do planning, goal setting and reflect on the previous year.
Recently I heard a sermon that challenged my thought processes overall, but specifically as I get ready to do my annual ritual of year-end reflection and planning. This concept has been shared by many great leaders in many different ways, but this version gripped me and stopped me dead in my tracks.
As you reflect and talk about this past year or as you think about your current circumstances or as you lay plans for the future, add a little phrase to the end of your thoughts. Add the phrase – “And that’s just the way I want it.”
Think about how that could impact your attitude and thought process. Here are some examples:
I am carrying too many pounds….and that’s just the way I want it.
I don’t feel like my kids respect me…and that’s just the way I want it.
I am in a dead end job…and that’s just the way I want it.
Our church does not reach out to our community like they should…and that’s just the way I want it.
My wife and I are not as connected as we were when we got married…and that’s just the way I want it.
I don’t take enough time to read the Word…and that’s just the way I want it.
You get the point. That little phrase has helped me change the way I talk to myself and to others. For me, I needed to shift my vocabulary (which can only be changed by changing how I thinking and my personal perspective on life overall) and reverse these thoughts. Let’s try some of those phrases again:
I feel heavy, so I am committed to working out…and that’s just the way I want it.
I want a deeper relationship with my wife and kids, so I am committed to spending more time with them…and that’s just the way I want it.
While my current job feels like it is a dead end, I am going to be the best at my role as possible while looking for ways to use my God given talents…and that’s just the way I want it.
I wish out church was more outreach focused, so I am going to start a group to meet the needs in our community…and that’s just the way I want it.
What a drastic difference. Can you imagine how much more fulfilling life can be in 2015 if we all changed our perspective and the way we approach life’s circumstances by taking the action needed to make a difference…to change?
So…are things “just the way you want it?” If not, then do something about it!