“For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.” – Romans 12:3
Life is short enough, but for many of us, it can easily become an all-too-quick look in the rear-view mirror of our later years when we start asking the simple question, “Why didn’t I just choose to be comfortable living ‘in my own skin’ a whole lot sooner?”. One of the silent cries of the soul of thousands of lives living around controlling, judgmental, passive-aggressive, bitter and angry people is the haunting question . .”When do I just get to be me?”. My response is simple, but not short . . “Who says you can’t?” . .”When did you give your personhood and power away?” . . “What fear did you allow to camp out in your heart that made it possible for you to be someone’s pawn?” . . “When did the lies of the enemy become your limitation . . causing you to believe that your voice doesn’t matter . . your ideas don’t matter . . your dreams don’t matter . . that you don’t matter?” . . “When did you give the liar and accuser of your days permission to keep you from . . living your life?”.
In Marc Chernoff’s 2011 article titled “30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself”, three of his very powerful and practical tips explode off the page for those “living in someone else’s skin” and are as follows:
- Stop spending time with the wrong people
Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
- Stop lying to yourself
You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
- Stop trying to be someone you’re not
One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
This is David “JB” Miller inviting you to take a look at the Life Letter “Ducks, Dives & Dumpsters: Living Your Life” where perhaps THE Cable TV Show that practically swallowed the Marc Chernoff manual for being “comfortable in your own skin” . . A&E’s “Duck Dynasty”, is the center of focus. Discover how the Robertson family patriarch found himself freed not fooled . . when he found the forgiveness that comes from getting real with himself and God. As you read part one of “Ducks, Dives & Dumpsters”, may God unleash a new season of authenticity . . one that is free of trying to be someone your not . . a season only made possible through a direct encounter with . .
. . His amazing grace.