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Although Companionship is a universal need, love, fulfillment and satisfaction in marriage does not just happen. Many marriages begin with great hope and expectation, but come to a screeching halt through an affair or just sheer boredom. What does it take to have a thriving marriage that lasts a life time?
The phrase His Needs, Her Needs(1994) was coined by Willard Harley who listed out the top needs for men and the top needs for women:
The Husband’s Five Most Basic Needs
1. Sexual fulfillment
2. Recreational companionship
3. An attractive spouse
4. Domestic support
The Wife’s Five Most Basic Needs
2 . Conversation
3. Honesty and openness
4. Financial Support
5. Family Commitment
As soon as you have read this list, if you are a husband or a wife, you may feel like it just doesn’t fit what you personally think are the most important things to you. Others of you may read the list and turn to your spouse and say, “See, I told you I needed this.”
A better response is to look at the list and ask yourself honestly, “Am I meeting my spouse’s needs?” If the husband meets “her needs” and the wife meets “his needs” both will enjoy a rich life together.